FIRST, WHAT YOU MUST KNOW ABOUT SWEET ANGELA:
Our gracious God orchestrated a connection with Stanford, Kentucky author, Angela Correll recently. Thanks to several friends, Jan Watson being one of them, our paths began to cross. (Jan was recently interviewed and featured here and here)
Additionally, Angela and I were connected via Nancy Sleeth as their husbands are friends and they share many interests. (Nancy also recently wrote a challenging article on Sabbath)
Next up, my buddy Judy Russell, (Hoping to hear from Judy in the next few weeks for you readers!) of the notorious Butter Babes, got to meet Angela when she was in Louisville doing a book signing at Carmichael’s for her novel Grounded. Judy said, “You have GOT to meet Angela!”
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We (The Butter Babes) took it upon ourselves to take a road trip over to Stanford, become acquainted with Angela, and check out the farm-to-table restaurant she’s co-owner of, The Bluebird Café. (www.bluebirdnatural.com ) Angela met us for a scrumptious lunch, even graciously treating us(!!!). During lunch she and Fay realized they were at Georgetown College together, just a few years ago. Can the world be any smaller?
After lunch, Angela took us across the street to her darling store, Kentucky Soaps and Such. We did some feverish shopping, including snagging some of her wonderful goat’s milk soaps and lotions and made-in-Kentucky gifts. (www.kentuckysoapsandsuch.com) Sidebar: After running out of what I’d bought, I ordered more products for myself and have given countless others away for gifts. These have been a huge hit among my friends. My favorite is the body cream with the “summer rain” scent.
A woman of many talents, Angela gave us tours of some of their newly renovated guest houses which are lovely. One of my friends booked one during Centre College’s graduation as they’re only ten miles from Danville. These would be perfect for retreats, weddings, a romantic getaway, etc. (www.wildernessroadguest.com )
The Butter Babes are pictured above on Angela’s front porch. We loved seeing the goats wandering around whose milk they use to make the soaps and lotions. Angela lives on this beautiful, rolling farm with her husband, Jess. They raise grass-fed cattle, horses, goats and chickens. (The Proverbs 31 Woman comes to mind.)
–NOW…..PLEASE SIT BACK AND ENJOY ENCOURAGING, RELATABLE WORDS FROM GUEST AUTHOR AND FRIEND, ANGELA CORRELL…..
by Angela Correll
“There is a time to weep and a time to laugh; a time to mourn and a time to dance.” Ecclesiastes 3:4
A season of mourning used to be practiced in our country as a time set aside for people to show the signs of grief outwardly.
Most of us are only able to picture that kind of grieving because we’ve seen a movie like “Gone with the Wind,” where proper society demanded the bereaved wear black for a year and turn down social engagements.
But well into the last century, a time of mourning was still common practice, with department stores having entire sections devoted to mourning clothes. A bereaved person was given the time and space to properly mourn and heal the loss of a loved one.
Everyone who came in contact with a person in mourning understood that something quite devastating had happened. They were given a little extra understanding, more time to be out of a normal routine, and more patience in everyday expectations. The time periods allotted could be anywhere from a six months to a year.
We lost our son-in-law two years ago in April. We loved him as a person, but he was also husband to our daughter and father to our dear grandchildren, only three and five years old. It was unexpected and it was shocking.
For about two weeks, we were able to grieve and stop our normal routine, but work demands gradually pulled us back in, and we made the attempt to continue life as we had before since it seemed that was what was expected of us.
But that’s like walking out of the hospital after your foot has been amputated and having everyone expect you to start running again in two weeks. No one thinks that though, because the bandages are a visible reminder of the surgery. That’s where mourning clothes would come in handy. It’s that outward sign that says to the world, “Give this person some room. They are not whole yet.”
Just as when a person heals from surgery, the whole of their physical strength is working to heal the injured place. This means they’re left with very little energy to do anything else. It’s the very same with an emotional injury like grief.
By the end of that first summer, the smallest of tasks exhausted us. I realized we made a mistake by trying to get back to normal far too soon. Yet it seemed everyone around us expected life to go on as before, although it would never be quite the same for us again. I longed for the culture of mourning so I could wear a reminder to others that things weren’t quite right yet and to please give us a little extra grace.
Truthfully, I have done the same to others by carrying on with unrealistic expectations. And it’s unlikely our society will go back to the mourning period anytime soon. But, it did make me think about others who have suffered losses. Since they aren’t wearing black, I don’t always know, but maybe it’s the store clerk who was a little short with me when I asked a question; maybe it’s the church member who didn’t smile and greet me; or maybe it’s someone I do know is grieving.
Whatever the case, I hope I can give out an extra measure of grace, just in case.
Angela Correll is the author of Grounded and the upcoming novel, Guarded. www.angelacorrell.com
——————————————–THANK YOU, ANGELA!————————
From Elizabeth now:
What wonderful words to live by! It’s a shame we grievers don’t still wear black beyond the funeral! May we all be in tune to those around us who are grieving while extending more grace.
Angela, we cannot wait for your NEXT NOVEL, Guarded, to hit the stores!!! Coming December 1st!!! (By the way dear readers, if you’ve not read Grounded yet, be sure to do that before Guarded hits the bookshelves! It’s a wonderful page-turner full of blessings and surprises.)
Here’s what we have to look forward to in Guarded:
“When restoration of the old stone house uncovers a family secret, Annie must travel to Italy to search out the answer, leaving her grandmother with a disruptive houseguest, and dealing with her own paralyzing fears about her relationship with Jake. Guarded is the sequel to Grounded, a bestseller on Amazon in Christian fiction and contemporary romance.”
(Favorite four words in the above paragraph: must travel to Italy. Mamma Mia. You’ve got my attention!!!)
Blessings to you, Angela, and we hope to make another road trip your way real soon!
Seems we are all on the same page over mourning this week… Please read more words of encouragement from Kurt Sauter.
‘Til next time!
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